this is the gaaay paaart...

So why do I get hit with all these questions about gay people seconds after someone finds out I'm a Christian? Who tagged me as an expert? Do people think that Jesus showed me His death list and pointed to gays at the top? He didn't.
I gots some 'splainin' to do. And unfortunately the efforts of a lot of my spiritual siblings have made this painfully necessary discourse a lot more necessary and a hell of a lot more painful that God would ever have intended it to be. So sit down and shut up. I challenge you to read the whole thing, point by point, from start to finish without exploding. And if you're quivering with anticipation of hate and judgment, shuffle your iPod to Judas Priest and let Rob Halford tell you You've Got Another Thing Comin'.
First of all, yes, gay behaviour equals sin. It's outside of God's design for human sexuality. It doesn't work. It's not meant to. If it were, He would not have forbidden it. Make no mistake, I have precisely zero personal grudge against it, though I also have precisely zero sexual interest in my own gender (hell, I don't know why women find men attractive). There's no reason for me to object to it at all, except for the fact that God does.
Secondly, and this is the point most Christians forget (if they even really believe it at all), it's NO WORSE THAN ANY OTHER SIN. God is not, repeat not, curling His lip in disgust at a gay person only to turn to me and pat me on the head and say, "Well, yeah, Doug, I know my Son told you in no uncertain terms that looking lustfully at a woman equals adultery, and I know that every list of disinherited sinners in Scripture that mentions gays also mentions adulterers and fornicators, but boys will be boys, y'know? Just don't hurt anyone with it [like that's even possible]. Hey, at least you're straight, right?"
There are a lot more points that could be made, but the above two are enough to blow large craters in the morass of wrong ideas that so many people have about this issue. If they're true, what does that mean?
First of all, it means that if He loves me, and I know He does like I know nothing else, than He loves gays as well. They're no more or less stained before Him than I am. The blood of His Son removes their stains just like mine.
Secondly, if the gay who wants to live in peace with his or her Maker gets there the same way I do - believing in His Son Jesus - then the path to overcoming their orientation is the same one I have to walk to overcome mine. Sure, I'm hetero, but I'm also a lustful little prick. I am not the least bit monogamous in my fallen human nature; in fact I know very few if any people of either gender who really are. Again, that's no better than being gay. I have to choose, every day, minute by minute, thought by thought, choice by choice, to live contrary to my nature. I love my wife, and am committed to her and to our marriage, but staying that course requires constant combat on my part against those parts of me that live only for mindless, animal desires.
The hard part is that a lot of those desires were born of genuine needs and real wounds that God understands and yearns to address. Just like I've been assured is the case with gays. God cares, damn it. He's not treating any of us like there's no pressure. All He wants from us is the will and sincere desire to overcome it. And we have to depend on Him even for that.
I ain't done with this yet, but that's a start on prying out some of the more stubborn stupidities on this issue. We as Christians need to jump on this, hard, right now. We need to make a priority of knowing what God knows about it. We need His heart, because He wants to use us to offer it to all who fall short of His glory. That's pretty much everyone.